We live a life of chaos by choice, and many people cannot
fathom how or why we choose to do what we do.
There is 2 questions/phrases we often hear; “How do you do what you do?”
or “I don’t understand how you do it”, and “Why do you do it?” In today’s busy
society, I thought I should blog a series of how we manage to do what we do. I
plan on offering tips and tricks and even recipes on how we manage our chaotic
schedules. Our chaos equates to a well-oiled machine, and each of us has a part
that keeps the machine running. Today I will answer the why, because it’s
simple. If I have learned anything in
almost 17 years of parenting, it’s that as the kids grow older the phases
change, and as a parent you have to be flexible and willing to change with each
phase.
I have touched on why
we do what we do in my other blog (you can find it here
and I explain it in several different posts), but the most simple answer is;
because our kids are happy and there is no other joy as a parent than watching
your kids do things that they enjoy doing. We have always taught our kids that
if you attempt to follow your dreams, some pretty amazing things can
happen. Of course we keep it real by
also teaching them or allowing them to learn that there are disappointments in
life and not all dreams will come true, but none of them will come true if you
don’t try, just like they don’t know if they will enjoy doing something unless
they try it. Thus, began our journey
with our chaos. Besides, how do you
know what makes you happy unless you have experienced it? How do you know you will like to watch soccer
unless you have seen a game? How do you
know if you don’t like traveling unless you have tried it?
Over the years our kids have asked to try many different
things, drama, band, a variety of different sports, boy scouts, girl scouts,
traveling abroad. And over the years they have discovered what they are
passionate about and have found things they didn’t really enjoy. For example Shawn discovered he doesn’t like
soccer and he doesn’t really enjoy baseball.
Jacee has discovered that she doesn’t really like Lacrosse. And both of them got to a point that they
didn’t enjoy boy scouts and girl scouts.
Through trial and error that got us where we are today. The chaos we have moved into the past year is our new normal.
Long story short, we are at a point where our kids have
found what they love to do. They play
the sports they do simply because they have a love for the game. Doing what they do today is following their dreams. And wrapped into that, it is our dream
to see our kids happy and attempting to achieve their dreams, and we made the
choice to help them achieve them in whatever we can. That meant, as a family, we chose to move
them to a competitive level within their respective sports that they play. And
this year was a great snap shot of what the next 4 years will be. It will be more chaotic than ever before. We
thought we had little spare time in years past, we now really will not have
spare time. There will be lots of
practices, lots of tournaments, lots of showcases, lots of games, and lots of
traveling and very little spare time. There will inevitably be blood, sweat,
tears and many sacrifices made by all 4 of us. The dynamics of our lives have
changed. Our time management skills will
need refined, our family organization more important than ever before. We will
miss functions (and please don’t take it personally! We try to make every
effort to make things but sometimes it will not work out! Don’t stop inviting us, just understand that
we will try!). We will have to forgo some of our own annual parties (don’t take
this personally either! We will try here as well). We won’t be camping every other week. We won’t have the best lawn on the block, or
even the cleanest house. And we will
undoubtedly be exhausted, so very exhausted. At the end of the day, looking into our kids
eyes and seeing their eyes light up and seeing their smiles doing what they
love is worth every single minute. They
are happy, enough said. If I have learned anything this past year, it’s that
our family dynamics are unique and this is our journey to be on and a choice we
have made together. I tell my kids two
things; “Shoot for the stars, but expect the worst. Sometimes you will reach the stars and
sometimes you will miss, and sometimes you will find that it turned out exactly
as it was meant to, but differently than you had dreamed. But in the end if you miss, make a choice to
try again, or decide it’s not your cup of tea and move onto something new. But
you can neither succeed nor fail unless you try.” AND “The world is a beautiful
place and has too much to offer, don’t just sit and let it pass you by. Experience it.”
Be happy……..follow your dreams.
Now that I have answered that question….The rest of the
series will be how we manage the
chaos, still grow our own food, and overall manage to do what we do. I will even share my tips and trick on
budgeting.
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